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Parent Resources: How to Prepare Myself for Some Time Away from my Child

February 22, 2023 By Elizabeth Shreckhise

So you and your camper have made the decision that she is going off to sleepaway camp. Yay! That is a huge step, and a move in the direction toward greater independence for your camper. But this can also feel scary as a parent. Will she be ok? Will she still need me when she comes home? Will she be different? Will I be ok while she’s gone?

The answer to all of these questions is – YES!

We’ve touched in other blogs and on our website on independence and positive personal growth – all great outcomes for the camper from the summer camp experience. But what about you? The adult, parent, guardian? Will you be ok? How can you prepare yourself for some time away from your camper?

Learning to be separate – for a brief time ☺

If you have not spent much time away from your camper in the past, this could feel different. Starting to prepare ahead of time – even this early – is the best way to feel your best mentally and emotionally when the time arrives. Here are a few tips I have:

  1. Let yourself feel the emotions! Scared, sad, worried, anxious – they’re all valid. Pushing them down or pretending they don’t exist won’t help anyone in this situation. Allow yourself to “feel all the feels.”
  2. Talk to a friend or your partner about your feelings, or journal about them. An important step in allowing yourself to feel those feelings is to also process them, either verbally or in writing. Maybe grab lunch or a coffee with a best friend (or set up a FaceTime if she’s far away!), or plan a date night with your partner with the purpose of talking through these things. If talking isn’t your thing, grab a journal or even type on a computer if that feels better.
  3. On that same note, try not to burden your camper with these feelings. It can be helpful to share feelings when she brings them up, for example, if she says she’s worried about missing you, you can validate that feeling and say “It’s ok to feel worried about that, and guess what? I’m worried about missing you, too!” But if you share too much of your anxiety or worries with your camper it could backfire and cause her to feel worse, or even feel guilty that you are feeling worried. Again, pretending like your feelings don’t exist isn’t healthy, but find that balance in sharing feelings as a way to validate her own.
  4. Make some plans! Do you have other children at home? Look at the calendar now and start putting special events on it for you and your other children. Maybe even special one-on-one time with each of your other children. Having special things to look forward to will keep you feeling positive and excited while your camper is away. No kids at home during this time? Plan some date nights with your partner, or get-togethers with best friends! Many parents use the camp time to take a trip together, or plan a girls’ getaway. Or maybe you want some solo time as some much-needed self-care (spa day anyone?). Take advantage of not having to get a babysitter for a week or three. And get those things on the calendar now so you can have several things to look forward to!
  5. Prepare to stay in touch with your camper – but don’t overdo it! Yes, there is such thing as too much communication from home (which we touch on in the Parent Handbook). If you’re a planner like me, maybe go ahead and map out the days you’ll write to your camper. If that isn’t your style, just make sure you have stationery ready to roll, or money loaded to your CampStaps account for one-way email communication. And remember – too much mail from home can impede her experience, so stick to just a couple of times a week ☺.
  6. Mentally prepare to NOT hear from your camper as much as you want to. Remember that this is a good thing – she’s busy! She’s having a ball! She’s out running around with her new friends, or resting during Rest Hour after a very active morning! As a parent of boys who go off to their own camp, I can relate to the desperate longing for letters from them, and the disappointing feelings daily when the mail arrives and yet again, nothing from the boys. Prepare yourself now! Not all campers love, or choose, to write letters home, despite our encouragement at camp. She’ll have plenty of things to tell you all about when you see her on Closing Day.
  7. And finally – breathe! Remember, you’re giving your camper a huge gift. She will gain SO much from this experience, and as hard as it can be to separate from her for a little bit, she will still need you, and she will still be your wonderful child when she returns – just a little more independent, with a few more skills under her belt, and a lot more friends to keep in touch with during the year. You’ve got this!

 

I hope this helps you get prepared to send your child away for a short time, but as always you’re welcome to contact me to talk through any concerns or ask any questions. I’d love to hear from you!

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About Elizabeth Shreckhise

Elizabeth is the Director of Camp Alleghany for Girls, the third generation member in her family to hold this position. But she also spent her childhood (ages 7-16) as 'Ghany camper, then held various counselor positions, and spent a decade here as the Assistant Director. She has a Masters in Education and Human Development and is a former School Counselor. Elizabeth lives in Staunton, Virginia during the "off-season" with her husband Matt and sons Mason, Ellis, and Noah. In addition to staffing, enrollment, program planning, outreach, and camp management duties, she helps keep the website current, writes and updates camp literature, and oversees the blog.

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